Margaret, a busy working mother from a large city, described her experience of looking after a relative’s home in the countryside last winter. The cottage was on her own for two weeks and Margaret describes her initial reaction. "My sense of time was extended, each hour felt interminable. Within a few days, I acclimatised to the lack of stimulation and by the end of the second week, I was beginning to enjoy the tranquillity that this situation offered". She realised that often, whilst in the midst of people, even with friends and family, she felt alone, and while cut off here without company, she felt more alive to herself than she had ever felt with others. She described being alone during this time as “a tiny death” and, when she returned to her usual life in the big city, she retained a sense of spiritual revival and described the feeling as “resurrected”. This example shows us that being in a silent place is a powerful experience and one that all people, not just the religious, should experience at regular intervals throughout their life.
Shirley described a time of being on an isolated campsite, alone for a couple of days. Her family left to visit a relative for three nights, leaving her alone. She suddenly realised that she was always “in role” as mum, doing, advising and caring and never fully pleasing herself. During this “special time” she ate, slept and took exercise when it suited here. She thought the natural sounds around her, the bird song and the patter of rain, was taking place exclusively for her and she felt as though she had never really heard properly these common natural sounds. She says: This time alone was a learning time for me and when I returned to my home to be with my family, I decided to take time off each week to revive myself in silence. In some way, I need to be alone to achieve the feeling of being a separate person in my own right, and having achieved it, I feel more able to be completely present for the needs of others".
John Birch was inspired by a visit at a quiet time to a holy site and decided to spend a week in silence, fasting and renunciation in his bedroom to raise money for a charity that supports the Amazon Rainforest and the indigenous people who are dependent upon it. Whilst he meditated and prayed during the day, he noticed that, without distractions, he developed greater empathy for those who live without modern conveniences and comforts. He also felt deep compassion towards to those in isolation, both chosen and unchosen.
Sara Maitland, a university graduate and feminist, has written a fascinating book about “falling in love with silence”. Whilst in solitude, she describes an increase in subtle and sensitive feelings, increased bodily awareness and an intense concentration, all of which are drowned out by busyness and the work of acquisition. This emptying that she continues to long for, gave greater rather than lesser enrichment to her life.
During the 4th and 5th centuries the Desert Fathers retreated from the world with the sole purpose of finding God and themselves. Spiritual classics such as Thomas Merton’s ‘An Asian Journal’, Carlo Corretto’s ‘The Letters from the Desert’, and Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s, ‘Letters and Papers from Prison’, all explore this subject matter. For anyone who is familiar with the compositional works of Ludovico Einaudi, the transcendent moments of silence are part of the music, and perhaps the most important part. John Cage was an even more experimental musician than Einaudi. His innovative composition, 4′33″, is a track of four and a half minutes of ‘silent music’. It is intended as a time of just listening and therefore hearing more than usual. The Danish Lutheran Cathedral in Copenhagen hosts a Night Church where attendees can appreciate music, poetry and rituals and where there is room for quiet prayer late at night. Recently, the National Museum of Modern Art at the Pompidou Centre in Paris showed ‘Voids’, a retrospective of empty exhibitions, showing empty spaces. A refreshing vacuum was purposely created. The Rothko Chapel in Houston, USA, has a modern meditative environment, inspired by the mural canvasses of this abstract expressionist artist. The Chapel has two vocations: contemplation and action. It is a place alive with religious ceremonies of all faiths where the experience and understanding of all traditions are encouraged and made available. Action takes the form of supporting human rights and the Chapel has become a rallying place for people concerned with peace, freedom and social justice throughout the world. It is also a place where religion, art, architecture and education intermingle. The beauty of silence demonstrates that ‘less’ can often be ‘more’.
Many of the children who live in inner city areas have never experienced silence in their lives and the discovery of silence is an excellentsubject for school projects. Increasing awareness and practise of silence (in the classroom and for homework) helps to develop internal containment that modern children are lacking to their serious life-long detriment.
Silence has been found to:
· increase sensitivity, empathy and understanding towards others,
· increase physical awareness, mental calmness and emotional balance,
· aid psychological maturity and emotional containment and be necessary for quality relaxation and rest.
Silence will become an important resource in future times as we learn to honour the immense power that silence offers to us. We need greater word clarity, so we do not confuse the word “silence” with lack of conversation, being alone, or the listening to natural, as opposed to man-made, sounds. Article by Wendy Stokes www.wendystokes.co.uk