Words to live by: - Integrity, Authenticity, Discernment, Responsibility, Accountability, Courtesy, Resilience, Empowerment, Truth, Honesty, Empathy, Equality, Humility, Service to others!
4 types of family systems:
Distracting, Placating, Computing, Blaming.
Defence mechanisms: Retroflexion It’s all my fault. Attribution: To assume, interpret and judge. Projection: Your unowned trials and emotions attributed to others. Seeing the splinter in their eye not the log in your own. Introjection: to swallow whole, attitudes, values, beliefs. You believe what you are accused of without question. Deflection: Backing away, denying. Confluence: agreeing and never risking disagreement.
Which is your easiest zone? Comfort zone, Learning zone, Panic zone, Stretched zone?
What do you want to communicate? What would heal your pain/ brokenness?
What do you consider is unacceptable behaviour?
What is your impact on others? What do you need patience for? What do you need kindness for? What do you need justice for? What do you need love for? What do you need humility for? What do you need a quality for? What do you need honesty for? What do you need generosity for? What do you need empathy for?
Describe your unhelpful thinking styles. Describe what you would like to happen. And when you lose what type of loss is that is there anything else about that loss and one that loss has got smaller what kind of loss will it be? Is there anything about that loss that you can tell me about. Describe what you would like to happen. And when you lose what type of loss is that is there anything else about that loss and when that loss has got smaller what kind of loss will it be? Is there anything about that loss that you can tell me about.? Where is that loss. Losing your temper is like what? Repeat it and repeat it again. Tell me about that.
When I am living at my best, I am like … What kind of living is that? How do I get into that zone? Is there anything else about that you can tell me? What kind of feeling is it? Anything else?
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